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Mar27FriMarch 27, 2020 by the TWR Women of Hope Ministry Team
God has designed us to be in relationship with others. New relationships regularly come into our lives through marriage, family, childbirth and friendship. Others are taken from us or fail to materialize (through miscarriages, infertility, divorce, widowhood or illness). As we walk through these seasons of life, God is very clear that he is Emmanuel (“God with us”) and that we are to support one another.
Sometimes our pain in these seasons is unknown to others. Although miscarriage happens in 10 to 20 per cent of pregnancies, its frequency does nothing to quiet the loneliness, confusion, shame, guilt and depression that are common to grieving parents.
Expressions of grief vary, and while you and your spouse may grieve differently, both of you need to take time to grieve. Communicate openly and honestly share your feelings without judgement. Together, find a way to acknowledge the significance of your baby’s life – a way to honour and remember this child.
You were not meant to walk this road alone. Call out to God and reach out to others. Join a church grief-support group or connect with an online bereavement-support community or pregnancy-loss ministry. God sees your pain and “is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit” (Ps. 34:18).
As the body of Christ, we need to come alongside those who grieve, validating their loss. Attend to both the mother and father, giving them permission to grieve well and express their honest emotions. Pray with them, showing both compassion and hope. Rally support around them, even as time passes.
Remember that God can comfort us through the example of Jesus’ suffering. He was denied, abandoned and then went to the cross alone to die. Jesus understands our pain and wilderness experiences. Our Saviour intercedes for us on high!